Friday, January 11, 2008

One of my reasons of acceptance

A few days ago, infact maybe a week or two ago I was really agonizing over being gay. I was angry and that resulted in this entry. So looking at the internet (WHERE ELSE) for answers, I found this blog which has the teachings of the great guru Osho on homosexuality. Going through it, I took a giant step towards acceptance and got a little bit of my peace of mind, which is evident from this entry.

In this journey of finding "ourselves" this emmensly helped me accept myself. The following is an excerpt from the blog which, in my opinion would help anyone struggling with inner acceptance.

.... The first thing: drop worrying about it! Just by being a heterosexual nothing better is going to happen -- it will be the same. So accept your homosexuality just as you accept other things -- hunger.... Now life's answer is not there in eating food -- every day you will feel hungry again, again full, and again hungry. The answer is not there, but that does not mean that because the answer is not there you stop taking food, otherwise you will die. ....
Among other things, he also says that:

... If you eat this type of food, that is good; if you eat another type of food, that too is good. The problem is not there. For example, somebody comes and he says, 'I smoke a certain brand of cigarettes -- now this is my problem.' The brand cannot be the problem: you can change the brand of cigarettes, but the problem will remain the same. That is exactly the thing with the heterosexual and the homosexual: you just change the brand of the cigarette, nothing else. .....

The quote I liked the most was simple and very telling:

The first and very fundamental thing is to accept the way you are so there is no need to be bothered about it, no more energy is to be put there.
So shift the emphasis. It has nothing to do with heterosexuality, homosexuality; nothing to do with it. I accept it as it is: It is good; don't make a problem out of it. If you make a problem out of it you will be continuously stuck there. Not making a problem of it means that now your energy is available, you can move somewhere else.

The reason we are called "gay" (a little bit funny, i guess)


Homosexuals are really gay, happy people -- they understand each other. If you understand yourself a little bit, you understand the other man you love. There is a great ' understanding between the persons...
About the "Religious Right" he says:

... Homosexuality is not such a big problem, it is not a problem at all, in fact. It is part of human freedom. There is nothing wrong if two persons choose a certain style of sexual relationship; it should be nobody's business. But the priests and the politicians are poking their noses into everything! They create guilt in you -- absolutely unnecessary. If two men are in love, what is wrong in it? What harm are they doing to anybody? In fact, they look happier than the heterosexuals; that's why they are called "gay".... Homosexuals become more feminine and they start having a certain beauty, a certain "richness" about them, a certain roundness, a grace... Why make much out of a simple thing? If you are enjoying a relationship with a man, enjoy it! .......
If you want to read more the blog is available here.

The above helped me a lot to move towards acceptance. Now, some people may knock it, but this worked for me, and helped me gain comfort towards my homosexuality. It made me more 'gay', I guess !!!

3 comments:

Dan said...

Osho rocks!! I googled 'Osho on Homosexuality' and what you posted here and the longer portion of these talks came up as well as Osho's answer to a man asking him for help with his eating disorder. Osho asked him if he was gay and the man said yes and Osho's advice was for him to have sex with a woman becasue only then can he find happiness (paraphrased)...it was the first thing that came up in google. so there seems to be a big discrepancy here...

Dan said...

Osho rocks!! I googled 'Osho on Homosexuality' and what you posted here and the longer portion of these talks came up as well as Osho's answer to a man asking him for help with his eating disorder. Osho asked him if he was gay and the man said yes and Osho's advice was for him to have sex with a woman becasue only then can he find happiness (paraphrased)...it was the first thing that came up in google. so there seems to be a big discrepancy here...

Rambunctious WhipperSnapper said...

hey dan ...

Osho has a certain opinion about homosexuality but that doesn't go against his teachings of accepting who you are. I may not agree with the advice he gave that man, but these passages were a big reason for my acceptance.